Today is my 35th birthday. Over the past several weeks I’ve worked on creating a new blog in the hopes of restarting it today: December 18th. Birthdays and holidays have a way of making me reflect on how my life has changed. When I first moved back to my hometown at the beginning of November 2012, I simply knew that my life needed to change. I didn’t yet realize how profoundly it would change so quickly.
Over the last few years, blogging took a backseat to dealing with the reality of creating a new life for myself. After we almost lost my grandma during the winter of 2013, she ended up in a skilled nursing facility nearby. Unfortunately, she needed much more care than I could give her at that point. For the first time since 2004, I found myself once again living on my own.
In retrospect, my relationship with Brian should have ended when I moved from Bay City to Omer – or even several years earlier. Yet, I don’t think either of us were quite ready then. To this day, we are both too stubborn to admit defeat easily. In May 2014, we finally faced the inevitable. While I won’t go into details, it ended in such a way that it was impossible for me to remain friends with him. I am still working on forgiveness. The worst part of it all is that I continue to miss his family. I love his family. In May it will be two years, and I have yet to date again. As much as I wish it would at times, a relationship spanning ten years doesn’t just disappear. You don’t just get that time back.
In 2014, just prior to breaking up with Brian, I lost my Grandma B. As much as I miss her and love her, I know that she is in a much better place and hopefully with the love of her life, Grandpa. Out of all of my wonderful grandparents, just my Grandma R. is left. I still visit her several times a week at the skilled nursing facility where she lives. It is never easy when in the back of your mind, you still carry around the vision of how things used to be and you are faced with the reality of eventually losing one of the most important people in your life.
One of the biggest changes in my life has to do with my career. At the end of 2013, at age 33, I made the decision to go back to school to earn my teaching certificate. Once I complete the program in December 2016, I will be certified to teach middle school and/or high school Spanish and social studies. The opportunity to go back to school continues to mean the world to me. In addition to earning my teaching certificate, I decided to earn my writing certificate at a local community college as well. I just completed my last writing class, and I’ve never enjoyed classes more.
At the end of 2012, my parents decided that they were open to the possibility of my brother and me purchasing their seasonal business, Russell Canoe Livery. I am happy to say that I’ve spent the last three summers working at the canoe livery and reacquainting myself with a business I’ve loved for as long as I can remember. It has now reclaimed its rightful place in my life. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Looking ahead, 2016 holds so much promise. In May, my brother and his girlfriend are expecting their second child, a boy who will be name after my grandfathers. My Dad is finally going to retire and make things official. After all of these years, I will become a business owner. Fall 2016 will bring student teaching and an end to my second college career. I can finally see the end in sight! It is time that I start to focus on creating the family that I’ve wanted since I was a child. If that means that I have to adopt as a single woman, so be it. There is so much that needs to be done before I become a mom. I’m just glad that nothing is standing in my way after all of these years.
So, what can you expect here? I’m not quite sure yet, although I doubt most of my new posts will be as personal as this one. I also plan to focus more on actual writing instead of discussing other websites and blogs, although I may highlight them from time to time.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Yea! I love your blogs! So excited to hear all your thoughts. You will be a great mom to a very deserving little boy or girl.