While the road ahead is straightforward professionally, that couldn’t be further from the truth when it comes to my personal life. Maybe that is why it has been on my mind so much lately. It has even taken over my dreams. Last night, as I cleaned out my blogroll and searched for new blogs, I came across quite possibly the most definitive list of qualities to look for in a man. I was actually toying with the idea of writing one myself (not here, but someplace way more private), but Ali over at Gimme Some Oven beat me to it. Here it is in all its glory: The list. There are only two things I would add: It would be nice not to have to cook alone, and he would have to like to read to some extent. I don’t mind cooking, but I can’t stand cooking alone. At the very least keep me company! Also, I love books and reading – anything to do with language. I don’t care as much about what he reads as long as we can intelligently talk about books.
Bottom line: There isn’t much to disagree with on her list. I completely understand when she talks about being too willing to compromise. There are some things that should remain non-negotiable. I learned this the hard way, and I would have saved myself a lot of time and energy if I hadn’t tried so hard to make things work. Sometimes things are meant to fail. I am much happier single than I ever was in a relationship. That is what scares me and keeps me up at night. Am I meant to be alone – or have I just not been in the right relationship yet?